What you have taught me in the last 24 hours

Will you participate in helping us get new MESH ANGELS out of isolation and fear and into a community and healing?

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  2. Mesh Tears;
    You are on my heart. I would add to the below, “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt I am reading her bio right now, and I believe this quote is true. ❤

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  3. You say help get new Mesh Angels out of isolation and fear and into a community and healing. I suppose you are referring to a community of love and support. May I offer a suggestion. Before you bring any new suffering women in things need to be looked at within communities. There seems to be not much support for some and so much for others that it leaves those who are on the edge feeling like they have no where to turn. Support should be given to anyone regardless of color, age, sex, religion, or who is better friends with who or who believes what or how a person acts because some handle stress, heartbreak, loss, emotions different than others. Some really need to lean on others while some do better on their own. And people who belong to any support group should not be scared to come out and say this because they are scared they will no longer receive the little support the do get especially when they may be on their last breath when their hands are starting to slip from hanging on too long. Another thing that needs to be looked at is talk about others. Too much goes on where everyone is talking about someone else. In emails, private messages, text messages, over the phone and rumors start that may or may not be true but either way they can still desperately result in really hurting someone who is already deeply hurting or really kicking someone when they are down. I am not trying to be rude or mean or anything and I am so very grateful for you and your work and for wanting to get women help but I do feel it is better to we’ll clean the mess before you bring in more injured. You certainly would not bring all of us to a germ laden hospital that did not sanitize and risk us all getting sick. I feel this would be equally the same thing. Now that I have shared my reasoning I will go and I hope you understand what I am saying and sure hope I don’t get kicked off anywhere as I don’t know how much longer I can fight this evil we no as mesh.

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    • Mesh Tears,
      I can so feel your pain coming through the screen. I’m am so, so sorry for your injury. An entity injured you. My family and I are suffering greatly because of it, so yes, I am referring to a community of love and support. More so for the many women who do not even realize it’s the mesh causing so many painful symptoms so at least they can start on the path to getting the awful mesh monster removed. You can always offer ANY suggestion on this blog, and I’ve considered your suggestion above, “Before you bring any new suffering women in things need to be looked at within communities. There seems to be not much support for some and so much for others that it leaves those who are on the edge feeling like they have no where to turn. Support should be given to anyone regardless of color, age, sex, religion, or who is better friends with who or who believes what or how a person acts because some handle stress, heartbreak, loss, emotions different than others. Some really need to lean on others while some do better on their own.” I agree whole-heartedly. But herein lies the problem: human nature. Sad but true. It’s my belief that where there are humans, there will be problems and where there are more humans there will be more problems. It’s the human condition. We are all selfish. I agree that your reference to talk about others needs to be looked at- it is destructive, and if one is not part of the solution or problem, one should not be involved in the conversation- again just my belief. I think many injured and non-injured understand what it feels to be kicked when you are down. The only part of your comment I disagree with is “. . . do feel it is better to we’ll clean the mess before you bring in more injured.” It is my belief that we cannot “clean up the mess” because we are human; we are fallible; we are wrong and hurtful often. But I can’t “fix” that anymore than you or anyone else can. Even God can’t fix that. People have free will to act as they please. I can only control myself, so that is where I place my focus. I will NEVER kick anyone off this blog unless they are not following the law or are being abusive emotionally, mentally or physically to others. I do understand what you are saying, and on that note, I too have been “kicked off” at least two boards (that I can remember) and I pay it no mind, for I know my calling is true, pure and born of love for my mother, you and the other injured. If what you say is true, “Some really need to lean on others while some do better on their own,” than I say God bless them, their efforts and pray for their path to be one of healing, hope and love, however they choose. I have chosen the God of the Bible as my example, but I do not disparage others if they believe something different. In fact, I encourage it, for it is the only way we can learn what we have IN COMMON. We already know the ways in which we disagree. This blog is not about “color, age, sex, religion, or who is better friends with who or who believes what or how a person acts because some handle stress, heartbreak, loss, emotions different than others.” It is about anyone who needs or wants help, for whatever reason and expresses that they think part of that help could come from this blog, me or my efforts. Much love to you Mesh Tears. Again- I am so sorry this great evil was done to you. But if there is evil, that means there must be good. You cannot have black without white. I just want to be the good and help within my skills and abilities. If they don’t suit you, no offense taken- truly. I wish you the best. ~The Mesh Warrior

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      • No offense was taken at all. I am glad you understood what I was trying to get across. I love what you do and your offer to help others as that is the greatest gift of all. Listening, understanding , comforting , empathy , sympathy ,believing in them and in their problem , giving a shoulder to cry on can be some of the best gifts you can give anyone not just those who are sick or injured and this is something I can tell that you do. You also do this not for your own personal gain but I believe it is because you know what it is like to be in this situation, you have seen the suffering and you can give perspectives to those who are caregivers and also because you truly deeply care about those injured by this evil. This mesh has caused women to loose their jobs, their husbands, their children, their homes, their families, for those that don’t die they have still lost their life in one way or another..I certainly understand bringing in new women who believe they are all alone and don’t know who to turn to for help but my thing was bringing them in to somewhere they could be injured worse. Remember you can be in a room full of people and still feel all alone. I get you I understand the whys and I know there is no way to “fix” the problems in society because there is always going to be someone talking, someone thinking they are better and the list goes on. I do think it is terribly sad that in a time and place with a tragedy that brought us here such as this that we can’t join forces together and become one voice. That is my dream one day. I am sorry about the emotions coming through there are some who want me to start a blog bit I am unable to. I love to right. I thought of 2 quotes that fit good here. The first one is:
        “The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved.”
        Mother Teresa
        And the second one reminds me of you.
        “All I ever wanted was to reach out and touch another human being not just with my hands but with my heart.”
        Tahereh Mafi

        thank you again for what you do to help others and again I hope none of my comments have upset you. Much love to you.

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        • You have not upset me. I’m just sorry for your pain. I can tell you just wanted to be the best wife/mother/friend that you could possibly be, and some of that has been taken from you in some ways. I am so sorry for that. It has been suggested to me that I should read Mother Teresa’s bio or autobio. I just have to figure out how to get things to sink into my brain during a time of such consuming grief. Things will get better though. I BELIEVE that to my core. Thank you for the quotes. I am honored that you took the time to read my words. My mother often says “much love” and we have an ongoing challenge – for life- and we say, “love you more” in response and let our actions speak louder than our (sometimes) hurtful words. Thank you for being here. Feel free to pop in anytime; comment or not. I’m just glad you’re here today. You are WELCOME here anytime and feel free to private message me via email if that feels like a safer forum for more discussion. ~Much love to you too, YOUR Mesh Warrior

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